{"blocks":[{"key":"556v1","text":"攻击性强的人需要对方和自己斗嘴，来进行胡搅蛮缠的言语攻击。而如果对方冷静的不搭理他，则会很痛苦。","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"cu740","text":"攻击性强的人之所以能够到处造成他人的愤怒，和大多数人情绪控制能力差有很大关系。\n以控制自身情绪为手段来打击对方，需要满足条件：\n1，能够长时间的处于思考状态，重视“理智”的重要性，这个状态是维持坚守理论的根基。\n2，愤怒被压制，会有本能的反弹能量与自身对抗，所以需要承受压制愤怒带来的痛苦。\n3，要有“杀敌一千自损八百”的综合考虑利弊的思维，自身压制愤怒所承受的痛苦，和estj被无视遭受的巨大痛苦相比，不值一提。\n4，幻想出对应的“理想人格”，就是一个冷静的家伙，在面对言语攻击时，冷静不语的人格，导致攻击者被无视而极度气愤。对于理想人格的幻想，有助于加强信念。","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"422sv","text":"------------------------------\n压制的愤怒，不会消失，而且进入潜意识了。这就是为什么，一个冷静的人一旦发怒反而特别愤怒，或者有的人仅仅因为小事特别愤怒，因为人长时间的压制愤怒进入潜意识，导致潜意识蕴涵愤怒过于庞大，一旦宣泄，则无法控制。","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"d34bp","text":"----------------------------------------","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"cpt1v","text":"如何消解平时压制的愤怒进入潜意识里逐渐积累的问题呢？","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"bbuv5","text":"相反的两个机能具有相互压制能力。这一点可以进行实际的体验来发现。\nfi和ti的相互压制，就是因为内倾思维状态的能量方位，和fi的感性能量方位，处于相反的方向。\n最有助于获得快乐，减少痛苦的就是静止的内在感悟状态，是趋于静止形态的si的深入。这种情况下，有助于淡化各种杂念。","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"93fu7","text":"同样，si的内在静止的感受状态，也有助于消解潜意识里积累起来的愤怒。\n禅宗追求的“空”，是为了消除杂念的困扰。","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"3pmeb","text":"另一方面，禅宗重视内在感悟。例如铃木大拙书里说某禅师装水有所感悟，每次倒下去一半的水。例如奥修书里说某禅师劈柴沉浸其中很开心。","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"2i42j","text":"所以禅宗的修行方向是淡化杂念，追求si的静止感悟状态。 修行目的很明确：获得快乐，减少烦恼。","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"e0v4b","text":"","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}}],"entityMap":{}}
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