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什么是真正的心理成熟? (豆瓣 INTP小组)

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本命盘中拥有水火合落天蝎座的人易具有以上特质,可多留意观察并向其学习。","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[{"offset":0,"length":3,"style":"BOLD"}],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"irg","text":"2. 头脑中有独立思考系统;","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[{"offset":0,"length":2,"style":"BOLD"},{"offset":3,"length":11,"style":"BOLD"}],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"9ajjb","text":"把信息当知识,把收藏当学习,把阅读当思考……这些都会破坏你的独立思考能力,涉及越多,你越迷茫焦虑,因为你一直在做的是下载多余的软件,而没有及时更新自身思考系统。","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"c30s8","text":"PS. 学习占星尤其需要保持自身独立思考系统启动,不然你会被大量琐屑无用信息淹没。","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[{"offset":0,"length":3,"style":"BOLD"}],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"dv2c7","text":"3. 承认并接受自己的软弱;","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[{"offset":0,"length":14,"style":"BOLD"}],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"1vq2k","text":"月亮不发光但仍然很重要,因为它知道自己的弱点、绝不在白天出现。对于我们而言,”做不到“说出来同样没有什么可耻。这个世界上一定有你能做到及做好的事情,你需要找到它,而不是把别人的成就当成自己的负担。一个人不用活得像一支队伍,一个成熟的人只要活得像一个人就很不错。","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"5vd74","text":"PS. 想起某双鱼女孩曾说过的一句话:”如果你不能接受自己的软弱,自然也找不到你的强大。“","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[{"offset":0,"length":3,"style":"BOLD"}],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"feav5","text":"4. 看透他人却不轻易翻脸;","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[{"offset":0,"length":14,"style":"BOLD"}],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"2v26i","text":"能做到这点的人,境界一定不低。因为他们至少做到了三点:1. 有智慧去看透他人;2. 有包容认识到人皆不易;3. 有定力去控制情绪。这些都是心理成熟的重要表现。当然,他们也不会一味地无原则迁就某人,他们会在权衡后做出”不翻脸“的后续调整,比如杜绝让对方从自己身上分享利益点。看透不翻脸你仍可以过得很幸福,但看透并翻脸你可能会过得更痛苦。","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"92sb6","text":"PS.本命盘中金星与下降点有正相的人易具有此特质,这是他们维护人际关系的一大利器。","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[{"offset":0,"length":4,"style":"BOLD"}],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"a3fbt","text":"5. 热爱现实且功利的世界。","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[{"offset":0,"length":14,"style":"BOLD"}],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"eeru6","text":"”我太厌倦这个现实功利、金钱至上的世界!“这是许许多多人的内心呼声,但是如果你心理成熟,你会发现再赤裸的利益交换背后其实都有人情在,而世间百态、冷暖人心往往都是通过极其现实的事情展现出来的,比如战争、比如金钱。能在这个功利的世界里深情活着的人,情商一定不低。","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"ct684","text":"PS. 金牛座是最出哲学家的太阳星座,因为他们更容易通过现实看透人生。","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[{"offset":0,"length":3,"style":"BOLD"}],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"8lqgi","text":"真正的成熟是身经百态之后的通透,而不是遭遇挫折之后的苟且。","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[{"offset":0,"length":29,"style":"BOLD"}],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"amg5q","text":"PS. 当我开始写此文时,我就意识到了自己的不成熟,因为标准是会变的,成熟是没有最终标准的。但我仍会写下,以此时刻提醒自己仍有幼稚之处。","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[{"offset":0,"length":3,"style":"BOLD"}],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"39jl7","text":"推荐阅读:","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[{"offset":0,"length":5,"style":"BOLD"}],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"4lsmd","text":"四大不成熟男性星盘配置\n","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[{"offset":0,"length":11,"style":"BOLD"}],"entityRanges":[{"offset":0,"length":11,"key":0}],"data":{}},{"key":"d2j4","text":"","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"dr257","text":" 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